Transactional Analysis (TA) is a psychological framework developed by Eric Berne that explores interactions, communication, and behaviors. Two key concepts in TA are Life Positions and Life Scripts. Understanding them helps improve personal growth, relationships, and career success.

Life Positions

Life Positions represent our fundamental beliefs about ourselves and others. There are four main positions:

• I’m OK – You’re OK: Balanced and healthy; fosters cooperation and trust.
• I’m OK – You’re not OK: Critical or controlling; often leads to conflict and judgment.
• I’m not OK – You’re OK: Feelings of inadequacy or low self-esteem; may rely too much on others.
• I’m not OK – You’re not OK: Pessimistic or helpless view; may result in isolation or depression.

Tip: Strive for “I’m OK – You’re OK” to build balanced relationships and self-confidence.

Life Scripts

Life Scripts are unconscious life plans formed in childhood based on messages from parents or caregivers. These scripts influence decisions, behaviors, and relationships throughout life.

Common Script Examples

• “Be Perfect”: Constantly striving for unrealistic standards.
• “Please Others”: Prioritizing others’ needs over your own.
• “Don’t Succeed”: Avoiding success due to fear of failure or criticism.
• “Be Strong”: Suppressing emotions and avoiding vulnerability.

How to Work With Scripts: Awareness → Reflection → Change behaviors consciously → Rewrite your script for growth.

Complementary Concepts

Parent-Adult-Child (PAC) Ego States

In TA, every individual has three ego states:

• Parent: Learned rules, norms, and attitudes from authority figures.
• Adult: Logical, objective, and problem-solving aspect.
• Child: Emotional, creative, and spontaneous self.

By understanding ego states, you can analyze interactions, improve communication, and respond effectively rather than react impulsively.

Benefits of Understanding Life Positions & Scripts

• Improved self-awareness and emotional intelligence.
• Better conflict resolution and relationship management.
• Enhanced career and personal decision-making.
• Ability to break negative patterns and create empowering life choices.

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Shivahari (S. Sivasubramani)

Psychologist, Career Analyst, and Counsellor. Expert in guiding clients through self-awareness and behavioral insights using TA principles.

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Managing Director and Lead Counsellor at Emocare. Specialises in counselling, life coaching, CBT, and TA-based guidance with 20+ years experience.

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