Understanding Gottman Therapy: Strengthening Relationships through Effective Communication and Emotional Connection

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1) How many Assessments are there in Gottman Assessment

1) 9

2) 10

3) 11

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2) Which type of couple would probably lead to divorce------

1) Volatile couple

2) Hostile-detached couple

3) Validating

4) None of the above.

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3) volatile couples are ---------

1) intensely emotional

2) ease and clear

3) minimallly expressive

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4) The balance between independence and interdependence is an  important aspect in

1) valodating couplr

2) conflict-avoiding couple

3) volatile couple

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5) Conflict avoiders minimize persuasion attempts and instead emphasize their areas of common ground

1) True

2) False

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6) The happy couple type according to Gottman-------

1) Conflict-Avoiding couploe

2) Validating couple

3) Volatile couple

4) all the above

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7) Over four decades of research data by John Gottman, couples are categorizeed into ---- types :

1) 4

2) 5

3) 6

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8) Taking a break and spending time doing something soothening and distracting acts as an antidote to------

1) criticism

2) stone walling

3) contempt

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9) -------defined as self-protection in the form of righteous indignation or innocent victimhood in attempt to ward off a perceived attack.

1) contempt

2) defensiveness

3) criticism

4) stone walling

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10) In four horesemen, what is the antidote of contempt----

1) take responsiblity

2) psychological self-soothing

3) build culture of appreciation

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11) In four horsemen, what is the antidote of criticism---

1) take responsiblity

2) gentle start up

3) psychological self-soothing

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12) Addictions, Hobbies childhood abuse, and date rape etc  will be discussed with each partner separately during second and third sessions. These things will not be discussed during the first session

1) True

2) False

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13) During the first session with husband and wife, therapist asks questions regarding the family and early childhood

1) True

2) False

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14) The second session in Gottaman therapy will be with wife alone always

1) True

2) False

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15) The first setting in Post marital counselling will be separately with husband and wife

1) True

2) False

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16) There are six types of couple as per Gottaman therapy

1) True

2) False

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17) Factors that are predictive of divorce includes---

1)  Criticism

2) Defensiveness

3) Stonewalling

4) Contempt

5) all the above

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18) Managing conflicts involve---------

1) accepting partner's influence

2) dialogue about problems

3) practice self-soothing

4) all the above

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19) In the floor of managing conflict,  couples learn to manage conflict through a ------ process.

1) four-step

2) three-step

3) two-step

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20) Which of the following is not a component of sound relationship house---

1) positive perspective

2) sexual intimacy

3) love maps

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21) The main two pillars of sound realationship house are------

1) trust

2) compatiblity

3) repect

4) commitment

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22) Gottman Method interventions are designed to improve  ----

1) friendships

2) Ability to manage conflict

3) Creating shared goals

4) all the above

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23) The Gottman therapy is subjected to  race, class, or cultural identity.

1) True

2) False

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24) The Gottman Method can  help couples who don't feel their level of conflict is problematic but are looking to understand their relationship better

1) True

2) False

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25) Couples learning to overtly express appreciation and respect for each other to strengthen their bond is termed as---------

1) manage conflict

2) share fondness and admiration

3) build love maps

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26) First floor of the Sound Relationship House which involves couples getting to know one another's inner psychological worlds.

1) manage conflict

2) share fondness and admoration

3) build love maps

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27) Couples who broke up exhibits a high level of behaviors that Gottman refers to as the ----------

Check

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28) In the Sound Relationship House theory, there are------------- elements of a healthy relationship.

1) ten

2) nine

3) seven

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29) A type of couples therapy developed by Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman is------------------

Check

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30) Married couples' interactions are fairly stable over time, and approximately 69% of problems between partners are never resolved due to differences in couples' personalities.

1) True

2) False

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31) MATCH THE FOLLOWING

1) Criticism

Select an answer1) Gentle startup2) Self-soothing3) Appreciation4) Take Responsibility

2) contempt

Select an answer1) Gentle startup2) Self-soothing3) Appreciation4) Take Responsibility

3) Defensiveness

Select an answer1) Gentle startup2) Self-soothing3) Appreciation4) Take Responsibility

4) Stonewalling

Select an answer1) Gentle startup2) Self-soothing3) Appreciation4) Take Responsibility

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32) MATCH THE FOLLOWING

1) Criticism

Select an answer1) Attack the sence of self with an intent to insult,mock & assuming moral superiority2) Verbally attacking the personality or character3) Complete withdrawal or Avoidance4) Victimising the self to ward off a perceived attack and reverse the blame

2) Contempt

Select an answer1) Attack the sence of self with an intent to insult,mock & assuming moral superiority2) Verbally attacking the personality or character3) Complete withdrawal or Avoidance4) Victimising the self to ward off a perceived attack and reverse the blame

3) Defensiveness

Select an answer1) Attack the sence of self with an intent to insult,mock & assuming moral superiority2) Verbally attacking the personality or character3) Complete withdrawal or Avoidance4) Victimising the self to ward off a perceived attack and reverse the blame

4) Stonewalling

Select an answer1) Attack the sence of self with an intent to insult,mock & assuming moral superiority2) Verbally attacking the personality or character3) Complete withdrawal or Avoidance4) Victimising the self to ward off a perceived attack and reverse the blame

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33) Match the following

1) Commitment

Select an answer1) “My partner has my back and is there for me.”2) believing and acting that the relationship is completely a lifelong journey3) Create an atmosphere that encourages each person to talk honestly and achieve the dreams4) Understand important visions and beliefs of the partner

2) Trust

Select an answer1) “My partner has my back and is there for me.”2) believing and acting that the relationship is completely a lifelong journey3) Create an atmosphere that encourages each person to talk honestly and achieve the dreams4) Understand important visions and beliefs of the partner

3) Create Shared Meaning

Select an answer1) “My partner has my back and is there for me.”2) believing and acting that the relationship is completely a lifelong journey3) Create an atmosphere that encourages each person to talk honestly and achieve the dreams4) Understand important visions and beliefs of the partner

4) Make Life Dreams Come True

Select an answer1) “My partner has my back and is there for me.”2) believing and acting that the relationship is completely a lifelong journey3) Create an atmosphere that encourages each person to talk honestly and achieve the dreams4) Understand important visions and beliefs of the partner

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34) Gottaman therapy  says “manage” conflict rather than “resolve” conflict, because relationship conflict is natural and has functional, positive aspects.

1) True

2) False

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35) The small happy moments of everyday life are actually the stumbling  blocks of relationship.

1) True

2) False

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36) Managing conflict has Four components

1) True

2) False

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37) TURN AWAY INSTEAD OF TOWARDS - This is one of the aspect of Sound relationship house

1) True

2) False

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38) Partner’s inner psychological world, his or her history, worries, stresses, joys, and hopes should be known to the other partner. This is called Building Love maps

1) True

2) False

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39) Share Fondness and Admiration is the antidote for contempt which is one of the Four Horsemen

1) True

2) False

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40) Friendship  between partners are the key to satisfying relationship and  sex, romance etc are more where satisfying friendship is there

1) True

2) False

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41) If the other person Map needs more facts, We should push our opinions on him to EXPAND THE MAP

1) True

2) False

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42) Accepting the other person's Map is the second step in MAP IS NOT THE TERRITORY

1) True

2) False

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43) Respect one own Map is the first step in MAP IS NOT THE TERRITORY

1) True

2) False

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44) Map is not the Territory Means What one feels and think is not the ultimate Truth

1) True

2) False

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45) Love Maps should be given as a home work for the couples

1) True

2) False

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46) Psycho-education of the Sound Relationship house and Map is not the territory to be done during the beginning of the session

1) True

2) False

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47) What are the Final 4 stages that signal divorce:

1) you see your marital problems as severe

2) talking things over seems useless – you solve problems on your own

3) you start leading parallel lives

4) loneliness sets in.

5) All of the above

6) None of the above

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48)  Flooding is the defenseless, shell-shocked feeling after the barrage of criticisms,contempt or defensiveness

1) True

2) False

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49) In the strongest marriages, the partners have a common sense of meaning. This means they do not support
each other‟s aspiration.

1) True

2) False

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50) Learn to speak about sex in a safe way. Lovemaking with a critical partner ends up usually without satisfaction.

1) True

2) False

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Understanding Gottman Therapy

Gottman Therapy, also known as the Gottman Method, is a type of couples therapy developed by Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Gottman. It is based on over 40 years of research and has been proven effective in helping couples improve their relationships and strengthen their emotional connection.

The goal of Gottman Therapy is to help couples build a strong and lasting relationship by teaching them the necessary skills to manage conflict, enhance intimacy, and create shared meaning. It focuses on improving communication, increasing understanding, and fostering empathy between partners.

The Components of the Sound Relationship House

The Sound Relationship House is a metaphor used in Gottman Therapy to describe the components necessary for a healthy and successful relationship. It consists of the following seven levels:

1. Build Love Maps

This level emphasizes the importance of knowing your partner’s world, including their likes, dislikes, dreams, and fears. It involves actively seeking to understand your partner on a deep and intimate level.

2. Share Fondness and Admiration

In this level, couples are encouraged to express appreciation and admiration for each other. It involves focusing on the positive aspects of the relationship and cultivating a sense of admiration and respect.

3. Turn Towards Instead of Away

This level emphasizes the importance of responding to your partner’s bids for emotional connection. It involves actively listening, showing interest, and responding in a supportive and engaged manner.

4. The Positive Perspective

Here, couples are encouraged to adopt a positive outlook and give their partner the benefit of the doubt. It involves reframing negative experiences and focusing on the strengths and positive qualities of the relationship.

5. Manage Conflict

This level focuses on teaching couples effective strategies for managing conflict. It involves learning how to communicate assertively, compromise, and resolve conflicts in a healthy and constructive manner.

6. Make Life Dreams Come True

In this level, couples are encouraged to support each other’s dreams and aspirations. It involves creating shared goals and working together to achieve them.

7. Create Shared Meaning

The final level of the Sound Relationship House is about creating a sense of shared meaning and purpose. It involves establishing rituals, traditions, and a sense of shared values and beliefs.

The Four Horsemen and Their Antidotes

In Gottman Therapy, the term “Four Horsemen” refers to four negative communication styles that can be detrimental to a relationship if left unchecked. They are:

1. Criticism

Criticism involves attacking your partner’s character or personality rather than addressing a specific behavior. The antidote to criticism is to express your needs and concerns using “I” statements and focusing on the specific behavior that is bothering you.

2. Contempt

Contempt involves displaying disrespect, sarcasm, or a superior attitude towards your partner. The antidote to contempt is to cultivate a culture of appreciation and respect, focusing on the positive qualities of your partner.

3. Defensiveness

Defensiveness involves denying responsibility, making excuses, or counter-attacking when faced with criticism. The antidote to defensiveness is to take responsibility for your actions, listen to your partner’s perspective, and respond in a non-defensive and open manner.

4. Stonewalling

Stonewalling involves withdrawing or shutting down during conflicts, refusing to engage or communicate. The antidote to stonewalling is to take breaks when feeling overwhelmed but commit to returning to the conversation at a later time to resolve the issue.

The Five Types of Couples in Gottman Therapy

In Gottman Therapy, couples are categorized into five different types based on their communication patterns and interaction styles. These types are:

1. Validating Couples

Validating couples have a strong emotional connection and validate each other’s feelings and perspectives. They are good at compromising and finding common ground.

2. Volatile Couples

Volatile couples have passionate and intense relationships. They have frequent arguments but also have a strong emotional bond and make up quickly.

3. Conflict-Avoidant Couples

Conflict-avoidant couples tend to avoid confrontation and suppress their emotions. They may have a superficially harmonious relationship but struggle with unresolved issues.

4. Hostile Couples

Hostile couples have a high level of negativity and criticism in their relationship. They often engage in power struggles and have difficulty resolving conflicts.

5. Hostile-Detached Couples

Hostile-detached couples have a combination of hostility and emotional disengagement. They have a low level of emotional connection and often feel distant from each other.

In Gottman Therapy, the goal is to help each couple understand their communication patterns and work towards building a healthier and more satisfying relationship.