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Transactional Analysis: Understanding Human Behavior
Transactional Analysis (TA) is a psychological theory and method that aims to understand and improve human communication and behavior. It was developed by Eric Berne, a Canadian-born psychiatrist, in the 1950s.
Life Positions in Transactional Analysis
In TA, life positions refer to the fundamental beliefs and attitudes that individuals hold about themselves and others. These positions shape our interactions and relationships with others. There are four main life positions in TA:
I’m OK, You’re OK
The “I’m OK, You’re OK” life position is considered the healthiest and most positive. Individuals who hold this position believe that both they and others are worthy and deserving of respect and acceptance. They have a balanced view of themselves and others, and they approach relationships with empathy and understanding.
Here are ten examples of behaviors and attitudes that reflect the “I’m OK, You’re OK” life position:
- Actively listening to others and valuing their perspectives
- Being open to constructive criticism and feedback
- Expressing appreciation and gratitude towards others
- Collaborating and working as a team
- Respecting boundaries and personal space
- Being assertive without being aggressive
- Accepting responsibility for one’s actions and mistakes
- Showing empathy and offering support to others
- Being open-minded and willing to learn from others
- Recognizing and celebrating the strengths and achievements of others
I’m OK, You’re Not OK
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The “I’m OK, You’re Not OK” life position reflects a belief that one is worthy and deserving, while others are not. Individuals who hold this position may have a sense of superiority or entitlement, and they may view others as inferior or flawed. This position can lead to a lack of empathy and unhealthy power dynamics in relationships.
Here are ten examples of behaviors and attitudes that reflect the “I’m OK, You’re Not OK” life position:
- Belittling or demeaning others’ opinions or ideas
- Manipulating or controlling others for personal gain
- Ignoring or dismissing others’ feelings or needs
- Using aggressive or abusive language towards others
- Blaming others for one’s own mistakes or shortcomings
- Refusing to consider alternative viewpoints or perspectives
- Taking advantage of others’ vulnerabilities or weaknesses
- Engaging in power struggles or seeking dominance over others
- Displaying a lack of empathy or compassion towards others
- Undermining or sabotaging others’ efforts or achievements
I’m Not OK, You’re OK
The “I’m Not OK, You’re OK” life position reflects a belief that one is flawed or inadequate, while others are worthy and deserving. Individuals who hold this position may have low self-esteem and may seek validation and approval from others. They may struggle with assertiveness and may feel powerless in their relationships. In the following film clip, you can see the students try to create YOU ARE NOT OK to teacher. One girl does not talk to everyone and students mock her zombie, and Zara feels I AM NOT OK. Finally the teacher makes her I am OK and you are ok
Here are ten examples of behaviors and attitudes that reflect the “I’m Not OK, You’re OK” life position:
- Seeking constant reassurance and validation from others
- Putting others’ needs and desires above one’s own
- Feeling anxious or inferior in social or professional settings
- Apologizing excessively or taking blame for things that are not one’s fault
- Avoiding conflict or confrontation at all costs
- Being overly self-critical and focusing on one’s perceived flaws
- Comparing oneself unfavorably to others
- Being overly accommodating and sacrificing one’s own needs
- Feeling dependent on others for approval and validation
- Being afraid to assert one’s own opinions or preferences
I’m Not OK, You’re Not OK
The “I’m Not OK, You’re Not OK” life position reflects a belief that both oneself and others are flawed or inadequate. Individuals who hold this position may have a pessimistic view of themselves and others, and they may struggle with trust and forming healthy relationships. In the following video, you can see a college boy comes to conclusion he is not OK because he is not able to finish the work in time and you are not ok because you dont understand the idea on which I am working.
Here are ten examples of behaviors and attitudes that reflect the “I’m Not OK, You’re Not OK” life position:
- Feeling hopeless or resigned about personal and professional prospects
- Engaging in self-destructive behaviors or habits
- Isolating oneself from others and avoiding social interactions
- Being highly critical and judgmental towards oneself and others
- Expecting the worst outcome in every situation
- Feeling constant dissatisfaction and unhappiness
- Blaming oneself and others for life’s difficulties and challenges
- Engaging in negative self-talk and self-sabotaging behaviors
- Being suspicious and mistrustful of others’ intentions
- Withdrawing from relationships and avoiding emotional intimacy
Understanding these life positions can help individuals gain insight into their own beliefs and behaviors, as well as improve their interactions and relationships with others. Transactional Analysis provides a framework for personal growth and effective communication.
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Thanks a lot for this information ..
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A foundation for both effective communication and personal development is offered by transactional analysis. This post was beneficial to me. Understanding these life roles helps enhance one’s interactions and connections with others while also assisting one in gaining insight into one’s views and habits.
Transactional Analysis is a use thing to deal with the clients as a psychologist but we can also use it to see where are we standing now at present in our lives the decisions we make today are the results of our past.
Now we can understand humans behaviour
It make me realise of self awareness .
What I learnt with this class
Life positions are the basic beliefs that we hold about ourselves and others, which are used to justify our decisions and behaviors.1 Our life positions are shaped by our early experiences, up until the age of seven, and these positions consist of whether we view ourselves and others as “OK” or “not OK”. Being “OK” refers to notions of being good or worthy; it is believed that everyone enters the world “OK”.
And “not OK”is the opposite
Brilliant course
Very valuable information
Definitely useful during counselling sessions..
Great participation by the team.
Learnt alot ..Thank you
Transactional Analysis: Understanding Human Behaviour.
TA- Transactional Analysis was developed in the 1950’s by Canadian Psychiatrist, Dr. Eric Berne.
Transactional Analysis has 4 main positions. 1) I am okay, you are okay. 2 I am okay, you are not okay. 3. I am not okay, you are okay. 4) I am not okay, you are not okay.
An example of 1. I am okay, you are okay: Actively listening to others and valuing their perspective.
An example of 2. I am okay, you are not okay: Demeaning others ideas and suggestions.
An example of 3. I am not okay, you are okay:
Taking the blame for things that are not their fault.
An example of 4. I am not okay, you are not okay: Being highly critical of oneself and others.
TA provides a framework for personal growth and effective communication.
Transactional analysis provides the best way of seeing where we see ourselves ,and most positive way of living is I am ok and you are ok
Very informative
Everything explained during the session seeped in directly because it was explained in such a manner
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Transactional analysis is psychological technique to improve human behaviour and communication. It is based on fundamental beliefs and attitude about self and others. It helps to diagnose many aspects of a person like anxiety, needs, comparison issues, hopelessness, isolation etc.
This technique also helps in gaining insight of an individual.
Tagline: I am okay, You are okay.
Ok Ok personality is good.
Thanks for this information, it seems worth learning.
This is very interesting, I think how we see ourselves holds a very exceptional key to how we can be influential in our societies and it also encourages us to cope with other people’s emotional wellbeing. Understanding Transactional analysis improves communication skills and mitigates coherent understanding with our clients and so to say, we can then be able to offer proper guidance.
I am Ok and You are Ok life position is excellence way of living with integrity.
Transactional analysis is a really good tool for counsellors when dealing with clients
Be the best position in the world
Brilliant course
Very valuable information
Definitely useful during counselling sessions..
Great participation by the team.
Learnt alot ..Thank you